Throw Out The Negative Thoughts

This lesson is going to be the entire foundation of this course and hopefully your beliefs going forward. As we are presented new information it can be very difficult to leave your former beliefs behind. However it is very important that you enter this program with an open mind. We are going to reshape your thoughts, actions, and most importantly, your beliefs.

When I say negative thinking it naturally includes negative thoughts about yourself and rejecting what you hear before trying it. However here are some examples of negative thoughts that are less obvious:

• Self depreciating humor about your weight, habits, etc.

• Thinking that something may work for other people, but not you.

• Listening to others when they give conflicting opinions, stated as fact.

These are vital because your thoughts create your reality. A great example of this is when I was a little girl I maintained my weight without having any thoughts regarding it. It wasn’t until I was surrounded by the 2000s skinny culture that I started dieting, for literally no reason, that I began to gain weight. It was only then that I started to hear the classic lines that surrounded us all: “Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels” or “You can never change your genetics, some people are just meant to be overweight.”

I grew up in the prime toxic dieting culture where no physical body would ever be good enough. This helped feed my raging eating disorder for more than 2 decades before I found my way out, my way to the truth. I will show you in this program how I healed my relationship with food, my body image, and my mindset. However, you will only be able to take in this information if you lower your barriers around your beliefs. This can be hard to do an sometimes as those barriers are a reflex or seemingly unyielding despite effort. This comes from a primal need to be correct in one’s assumptions. So as you dip your toe into the program try to just commit to whatever comes next for the next few weeks. Practice embodying the mindset I am asking you to and give it your all. Many actors do this when they take on a serious role and behave differently for months to prepare. Perhaps you can do the same if committing to changing your entire mindset for life seems daunting or impossible. Remember, if you are a chronic dieter like I was then I know you are able to do this because every single diet you ever started was because of the promise of something new, something to change.

A perfect example of this is when I used to hear about people who would just eat one cookie and be satisfied. My family and I (who identified as sugar addicts and overeaters) always laughed together thinking lucky bitch. We would collectively roll our eyes and say that would never work for us because we are all big sweet-tooths. We agreed that if we couldn’t have a dozen cookies then we don’t even want one. I believed this lie that I was bred into for so long I would never have imagined I could eradicate it from my beliefs. As we work through this program, when something like just eating one cookie is mentioned as a suggestion, stop and leave your mind open before you react. If you just snap respond like you normally do then no change will be able to occur.

When I started listening to my body it was almost scary how following my intuition made me uncomfortable. It made me feel a little like an outcast because I began evolving into someone different, someone we used to make fun of. It takes courage to let go of who you used to be. Let go of the victim mentality. Let go of others telling you who you are. However; Gaining this courage is the key that will unlock all the changes you have prayed for for your entire life.

"I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear." ― Nelson Mandela